Sunday, May 9, 2010

Problematic Question

Should gay couples have the same rights as other couples, when it comes to children?
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  1. Paige HisermanMay 10, 2010 at 4:06 PM

    I definitely believe that gay couples should have the same parental rights as traditional couples. It would be wrong to deny someone the joy of being a parent simply because they are attracted to their same gender. If a person is capable not only financially, but emotionally and they would like to expand their family, I think it would be very wrong indeed to deny them of this. I realize I have a biased feeling being "half gay" myself, but I also can't see myself judging people by some of the external things rather than their character as a human being. I think its what kind of person we are that should matter, not sexual orientation, race, or background growing up that should decide our future.
    If we do base qualifications on standards of superficial qualities as appearance and such, it seems that we will only be regressing to the people we were in the past rather than present. Progression will only come from looking at the present or future.So why should we hold ourselves back from growing and learning and living because maybe we're not used to it and it still makes us slightly or very uncomfortable?
    I suppose I just don't see the need to hold back others because of our personal opinions. I'm sure the majority of us would be highly offended if we were told traditional couples could no longer raise children because we are straight. Therefore I don't think the majority should decide who raises children. If the parent is capable they should have the freedom to choose how they want their children to live without the burden of others to "okay" the motion.

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  2. Eric ArballoMay 11, 2010 at 5:05 PM

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  3. Eric ArballoMay 11, 2010 at 5:10 PM

    Homosexuals should absolutely have every single right heterosexuals have. Homosexuals are no different from heterosexuals except for the sex they choose to be affectioned with. Just because a man chooses to love another man or a women chooses to love another women is no reason deny someone the right to raise children. Many people will disagree, especially here in Utah County. For the sake of rhetoric I know I shouldn't allow my self to go off on the people who disagree with me, but that has got to be my biggest weakness as a writer. But when it comes to topics like this that concern social progression and justice I get overly passionate about my stance . So here I go. I have yet to hear a logical argument on why homosexuals shouldn't be allowed to marry raise kids. Some people think that homosexuals are less competent than heterosexuals when it comes to raising children. These idea's against homosexual's getting married and raising kids, are based on ideology and fear. Frankly I think it is absolutely ridiculous that homosexual's still have to fight for equal rights, even after the progress made by the Civil Rights Movement of the 1960's, which was focused on racial discrimination, but to big picture of civil rights puritans not only to race but also religion, social status, and sexual preference. I find it almost impossible to talk to some people around here about his subject. Utah county is saturated with extremely conservative Christian zealots who will not even consider the possibility of any validity in a point of view that conflicts with theirs. I'm don't mean to offend anyone, but those who are against homosexual's raising kids are ignorant, and those kinds of people are more than willing to keep other's from being happy just to reinforce their own personal ideology. Sure you might not think homosexual's shouldn't raise kid's, and your entitled to your opinion, but that doesn't mean you have to force your opinion on others. America was founded on the principles of freedom, defined as not restricting a person's options for how they choose to live their life. But America has become a two faced country, we still preach freedom, but I contently see the restriction of choices for the personal gain of someone else.

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  4. JarickaMay 12, 2010 at 12:54 AM

    Through research I have found that there are a few states that have made unmarried-couples unable to adopt or become foster parents. Those states, which were most prominent, are Florida, Utah, and Arkansas. The target of the laws in place to prohibit unmarried-couples is aimed at Gay and Lesbians. However, it did not make single parent adopt or foster care illegal.
    I believe one’s biggest reason for wanting to outlaw same sex marriage is their values and beliefs. The church has taught that union should be between a man and a woman and beliefs have lead that a child should be raised by such a couple. It makes the most sense for a healthy dynamic and up bringing. But does that label someone as uninformed?
    In the matter of foster care by partners of the same gender is it the best situation to place an already confused, misplaced child in an amplified unknown living arrangement. Would this lead the child, in their search of finding a place in the world and their own identity, to become gay themselves?
    In the locker rooms, especially for boys, will they feel comfortable enough to change in front of a fellow student who is from family with parents of the same gender, or will they fear that boy might be gay as well? That fear leads to an uncomfortable situation where learning will not be focused on. Curiosity from other students may instigate inappropriate questions or cruelty singling out the child with a unique home life.
    Will that child be able to gain a healthy connection with peers that are part of the school experience? Commonly the outcasts lack social interaction skills needed to communicate with the world around them. Without healthy development of those skills one cannot prosper in a relationship or a job.
    For the sake of any child, I hope that they receive all the love and positive attention a parent is able to give, married or single, straight or gay.

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